This one is for the adults out there, so if you’re underage, check your fake ID at the door. You recall recently that I posted about your first enchantment in Lesser Magic and I pointed out some of the things that you should be aware of when you’re meeting somebody for the first time. I talked about what a handshake should look like if your target fit the example, and I briefly brushed on the sort of behavior to exhibit if you wanted to take a spin at being me and being successful in my world. By the end of it you may have come to agree with me that Lesser Magic is far underrated by many of the Satanic population, and I tend to feel at times that those who write it off the most are those who fail the most at utilizing it. There is much more overall to consider when you’re playing a role, and Lesser Magic really can sometimes feel like an act with the entire world as your stage. Done in real-time on a road constructed by bricks you’ve painstakingly laid in the past, there is no reason why you shouldn’t be able to get an Oscar for your performance if you only take the time to learn about your subject and understand what’s going on behind the curtain in Oz.
I made a reference earlier this week to my life being apart of another social culture. If my life were a Venn diagram it would probably look something like this; with Satanism on the left, and Fetishism on the right. My relationship with the Fetish lifestyle is older to my spirit than Satanism is, and it was the first experience I had of absolute homecoming since I had known, nearly since birth, that it was who I am. To explain; sometimes some people experience life in a different way than others, and much like Satanists, those who live the alternative fetish lifestyle tend to see the world just a little bit differently than their vivaciously pale and righteously virtuous counterparts. I understand why it is that some people only feel true release when they’re bound. I understand what it is that drives people to dominate others—and it’s not because they’re “mean,” or even all sadists like the “Vanillas” want to believe. I’m experienced in navigating the sea of shaming, dismissal, and judgement in these areas, and like those who share my head space, I always emerge on the other side because it’s who I am and I can’t change that. BDSM isn’t a trend for me like it is for others, and for that reason I respect and cherish it with all of the care that I do with this religion, and for doing this it has helped me grow in ways that directly impact my Lesser Magic and I have blessed myself in this regard.
Those who don’t understand the needs of a submissive male will firstly, never be able to accurately identify them, and secondly, never be able to follow through with them in a way that truly satisfies them and in turn, satisfies themselves. The same can be said for the dominant male: if you only present yourself in a way that you’d expect them to want you to they will blaze on by you faster than a bullet train, leaving you spinning with your so-sad little pout and blushing cheeks on the verge of tears, wondering what in the Hell that dude’s problem was to be so incredibly cold and apathetic toward your obviously pure efforts. You may be surprised how often a greenhorn will write off an experienced dominant as an ass for not taking interest in them, and you’d be surprised how often young and inexperienced doms get fearlessly corrected by an offended submissive before names are even exchanged. To those in the fetish community, I nod back at you with a mirror-like smile. For those who don’t understand this reaction, be aware of this indication of an opportunity to break the cycle, a prevailing maelstrom of disrespect, stupidity, pretentiousness, arrogance, ignorance, and offensive lack of perspective. Yuck! Just reading those words makes me want to vomit, and witnessing it in action is far more insufferable!
But how do you break the cycle? How do you know when you really know a thing or if you’re just guessing? The number one thing that I can recommend to you isn’t something that you’re going to hear from anybody else or from any book, be it psychology, sociology, Lesser Magic for Dummies or even BDSM 101. It’s empathy. Empathy, citizens, is what is going to help you to understand anything in this world that you want to understand. Take yourself out of your own head and see the universe through their eyes. Recognize that everyone is different and so should be your results. I’ll give you an example that brushes upon what I spoke of earlier.
My boss. Let’s pick my current boss because he’s just so damned interesting a specimen to dissect. He holds a high-level certification, dresses in a black suit with sneakers, grows his hair out just a little bit, dyes it brown, speaks with a gentle tone, recognizes his flaws and lies to himself to cover them up, and drives a big fancy foreign car for a company that’s more or less on the same financial level as a charity. His aesthetic presents power, but older gentleman as he is, the fact that he’s dying his hair brown and still wearing sneakers to work says to me that he knows he’s getting older and sees it as a weakness, not a strength. His decisions are flawed and short-sighted, and he’s always on his phone, interrupting whomever he’s with in order to answer it as a way to inflate his own importance and minimize your own.
Here’s what you think should happen:
How did you do? Did you do everything that I would have or would you have done only what people who couldn’t see past the surface would have done? Do you wonder how I was able to pick out those courses of action, or do you see it like I do? It’s because I understand what’s going on in my boss’ head. I understand his “thesis,” if you will. I know what he wants (He’s a little man who wants to be the man he pretends to be), and by supplying that for him I can provide him with the fond little tickles of happiness that he’ll fight tooth and nail not to lose. This—this feeling of happiness and validation that your targets experience around your witchcraft—this is enchantment. This is what being enchanted feels like. It’s a good feeling so long as they stay in line with what you want from them, and the moment my boss starts to go down a road that I don’t approve of you can believe that he won’t want to be heading down that direction for long.
Magic is different for every practitioner, and it’s important to work with what skills you have, but there are some things that get much easier when you can put reason behind them. When you’re working with the four personality archetypes it’s important to understand what really makes them tick. My experience in the fetish community has attuned me to how to deal with dominant and submissive types which in turn opens up my interpretation for the assertive and comedian personality types. I was going to give you a cheat sheet, but well, what fun would there be in that? Make your own cheat sheet.
Hail Satan!
Those who don’t understand the needs of a submissive male will firstly, never be able to accurately identify them, and secondly, never be able to follow through with them in a way that truly satisfies them and in turn, satisfies themselves. The same can be said for the dominant male: if you only present yourself in a way that you’d expect them to want you to they will blaze on by you faster than a bullet train, leaving you spinning with your so-sad little pout and blushing cheeks on the verge of tears, wondering what in the Hell that dude’s problem was to be so incredibly cold and apathetic toward your obviously pure efforts. You may be surprised how often a greenhorn will write off an experienced dominant as an ass for not taking interest in them, and you’d be surprised how often young and inexperienced doms get fearlessly corrected by an offended submissive before names are even exchanged. To those in the fetish community, I nod back at you with a mirror-like smile. For those who don’t understand this reaction, be aware of this indication of an opportunity to break the cycle, a prevailing maelstrom of disrespect, stupidity, pretentiousness, arrogance, ignorance, and offensive lack of perspective. Yuck! Just reading those words makes me want to vomit, and witnessing it in action is far more insufferable!
But how do you break the cycle? How do you know when you really know a thing or if you’re just guessing? The number one thing that I can recommend to you isn’t something that you’re going to hear from anybody else or from any book, be it psychology, sociology, Lesser Magic for Dummies or even BDSM 101. It’s empathy. Empathy, citizens, is what is going to help you to understand anything in this world that you want to understand. Take yourself out of your own head and see the universe through their eyes. Recognize that everyone is different and so should be your results. I’ll give you an example that brushes upon what I spoke of earlier.
My boss. Let’s pick my current boss because he’s just so damned interesting a specimen to dissect. He holds a high-level certification, dresses in a black suit with sneakers, grows his hair out just a little bit, dyes it brown, speaks with a gentle tone, recognizes his flaws and lies to himself to cover them up, and drives a big fancy foreign car for a company that’s more or less on the same financial level as a charity. His aesthetic presents power, but older gentleman as he is, the fact that he’s dying his hair brown and still wearing sneakers to work says to me that he knows he’s getting older and sees it as a weakness, not a strength. His decisions are flawed and short-sighted, and he’s always on his phone, interrupting whomever he’s with in order to answer it as a way to inflate his own importance and minimize your own.
Here’s what you think should happen:
- Be casual with him – he just wants to fit in with the younger crowd
- Ask him for help a lot – he wants to be important
- Agree with everything he says – he wants to be the boss
- Compliment him on his car and his credentials – he wants to be recognized for hard work
- Be polite with him and encourage him to give you recommendations for movies/restaurants/books etc. Show him that you revere his stature, and don’t put him in the position of trying to prove that he is as young as he wants to be. If you ask him about a hip new band that he’s never heard of he’s going to feel old and insecure about it – not what you want. This way you’re still engaging with him.
- Come up with better ideas than him and credit them as his. He can’t come up with them himself, and when they work out he gets the glory he desperately needs (lol, desperate is an understatement). This may feel like you’re losing ground here, but don’t forget that this guy is your boss and he controls your work life. When your boss succeeds YOU succeed. Upper management will notice how great this guy is doing lately and will want that for themselves when they begin to wonder why, and they will try and snatch you up from him so that you can work for them instead. Helloooooo bonus and job security!
- Question and engage with what he says. It shows that you care about what he has to say and are hanging on his every word. Don’t question HIM, but engage with the direction he’s sharing. Use phrases like, “Do you think,” “I wonder if,” and “Would you expect.” They’re non-threatening and show that you’re engaged and relying on him because he’s “oh so important,” Mr. Big Boss Man.
- Don’t draw attention to his car and his credentials unless you’re very careful. These are tools he uses to try and distract you from his insecurities. Mentioning them will make him aware that you’ve noticed and he will experience some anxiety that you’ll see through his façade. Feel free to mention them in a way that supports his fantasy, but don’t question their credential or purpose.
How did you do? Did you do everything that I would have or would you have done only what people who couldn’t see past the surface would have done? Do you wonder how I was able to pick out those courses of action, or do you see it like I do? It’s because I understand what’s going on in my boss’ head. I understand his “thesis,” if you will. I know what he wants (He’s a little man who wants to be the man he pretends to be), and by supplying that for him I can provide him with the fond little tickles of happiness that he’ll fight tooth and nail not to lose. This—this feeling of happiness and validation that your targets experience around your witchcraft—this is enchantment. This is what being enchanted feels like. It’s a good feeling so long as they stay in line with what you want from them, and the moment my boss starts to go down a road that I don’t approve of you can believe that he won’t want to be heading down that direction for long.
Magic is different for every practitioner, and it’s important to work with what skills you have, but there are some things that get much easier when you can put reason behind them. When you’re working with the four personality archetypes it’s important to understand what really makes them tick. My experience in the fetish community has attuned me to how to deal with dominant and submissive types which in turn opens up my interpretation for the assertive and comedian personality types. I was going to give you a cheat sheet, but well, what fun would there be in that? Make your own cheat sheet.
Hail Satan!
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