Years ago, in college, a small nugget of bizarre and unwanted advice made its way through my ear canal and imprinted itself firmly in my brain—and it refused to let me forget it. Trust me, I tried. It was like a bad song that gets stuck in your head for like a decade (or maybe I am especially prone to this sort of thing?) The weirder thing is that this advice was specifically advice about business studies—though now that I reflect on it with a Satanic mindset, I find that at its core, it really was much more than that. This advice is important. It’s advice that I had appraised appropriately all those years ago, even though I didn’t know why it was such important advice.
Now I pass it to you. Here it is:
“Don't burn bridges
before you're thirty.”
Join me in observing the peculiar hybrid of vague-specificity and the mysteriously abrupt way this advice ends itself. We know it's a metaphor: if burning bridges ought to be done, it’d be absurd to imagine that there should be an age limit associated with it, so this clearly has to do with relationships. That age factor though: why? Could it be that the adviser has some reason to believe that we’ll regret destroying relationships when we're 15? This sounds absurd: not all relationships are worth keeping! Some “bridges" are dangerous and toxic to our health, so why would this advice ignore those important situations? I would imagine that at 15 we would be able to determine who is safe and isn’t. We know from a young age what olive branches are worth extending, and we know that pushing someone out of our world (burning a bridge) who is not good for our happiness, health, and prosperity, can never be a bad thing. Most importantly, we Satanists do not let fear govern our actions when it comes to protecting ourselves and those we love. No: we are fierce and strong, and those bridges will light up the night sky like a hundred Californian wildfires if we deem it just to burn…
…But we can never forget that we are human. We are flawed, and we do make mistakes.
In the end I figure that what the adviser was trying to tell me was, “In the game of life you often can’t predict when you’ll want to call upon a relationship that you previously wanted to destroy.” I believe it was advice meant to warn against the sting of regret and the “until you’re thirty” part was only slapped on the end there as a way to comment on the idea of, “Can you make it on your own, without help from others?” Or, maybe it was some sort of built in fail-safe meant for people who followed orders perfectly. Who knows…
We tend to encourage Lex Talionis as Satanists. We support the concept of justice whenever possible, but sometimes that will for justice transitions from an indulgence to a compulsion. You should always think about the end result before you pursue the heat of the moment. Don’t burn bridges, don’t destroy opportunities for yourself before you’ve had a chance to adequately assess if you’d ever want to cross that bridge again. Sometimes you know you don’t. That’s fine. Destroy that bridge. Or maybe don’t…At least not until you’re thirty, anyway (apparently).
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Once I called myself a Christian, then an atheist, and a Satanist. At the end of the day, I'm just a person who is living her truth one day at a time. I'm interested in religion, its effects on the mind, the occult, and more. Learn more about me on the about page.