Everyone has those days where your emotions want to run away with you for one reason or another. The religion I was raised in taught me a lot about how to suppress emotions but never really control them. My Satanism includes the responsibility of self, and that includes being able to be responsible with your emotions. I found my own thoughts written in the pages of the Satanic Bible when the founder described his opinion that letting emotions die in darkness only poisoned the body.
It's important to acknowledge and let yourself feel, whatever emotion it could be. Emotions are real, they're happening for a reason. Don't ever let someone tell you that your emotions are invalid...the cause may be, but your emotions are not.
Still, responsibility is a two sided coin. We are responsible for letting our emotions breathe, but we cannot allow them to run us. Our choices and decisions, our words and commitments must be our own. To this end, I thought I may share some tactics with you about how to handle those emotions without doing something such as: "Telling your problems to others who do not want to hear them." Let's begin.
Step 1: Identify your emotion!
In order to prevent yourself from suppressing it you need to know what emotion you're experiencing. It's rare that we ever operate in a linear black and white way when ti comes to emotions so I would suggest choosing the prevailing and dominant emotion to start with for this exercise.
Step 2: Identify the right time and place to release your Wild!
Although tempting it's rare that the moment we feel an emotion is the optimal time to release it. Clearly we're getting emotional for some reason or another, but the smart Satanist will reserve their emotions for when they can most effectively put them to use.
Step 3: Identify a vessel(s) to receive your Wild
A vessel is something that you can put your wild - your emotion into. It doesn't have to be a physical thing, but sometimes something physical can be helpful for certain emotions. For example, if you're feeling Wrath you may find paper to be suitable since you can either write on it, tear it, or burn it. If it's sorrow ou may want to grab a stuffed animal to hug. If your emotion is something like Bereavement though, you may want to grab a photo album and allow your vessel to be "memories." Likewise with Lovesickness, you may find a playlist suitable so that you can sing along to your favorite beats and expel that energy with your voice.
Step 4: Decide how much exercise your Wild needs
Some people just need a sprint and others need a marathon. Whatever it is, it doesn't matter. This step is to make sure you can pack up and leave it behind you safely when you're done.
Step 5: Go crazy
Commit to feeling that emotion like the savage beast you are. Own it. Your power is yours. Lose yourself in it (safely) for the period you agreed upon in your rational state and get it all out. You must feel no shame. Show yourself what raw beauty your emotions manifest to be. Your commitment to this must be at least equal to the weight that your emotion has on you.
Step 6: Aftercare
We can't go on forever in our emotional state so you eventually have to call it quits. If you did a good job you will probably feel a bit tired and maybe even a bit empty as compared to that performance you just had. That's okay. That's all a part of this. Enjoy some tea and go get some sunlight. You've earned this peace of mind, so enjoy it!
Step 7: Repeat as necessary
If you're not feeling much better you may want to repeat the process. Alternatively, if you find yourself caught up in a pattern that this little exercise doesn't seem to address, you can perform a ritual toward the core element of the problem so that you may find your end peace.
Well, that's it! It's a pretty straightforward system but it works pretty fast! So, the next time you feel yourself clouded by emotion take a step back and give yourself permission to feel--but feel it when you can actually feel it. By doing this you're not suppressing it but you're keeping that responsibility and control over your emotions that must be kept. I have high hopes that using this system works out for you--remember, I'm not a doctor, but this works pretty well for me.
Who is the Witch?
Once I called myself a Christian, then an atheist, and a Satanist. At the end of the day, I'm just a person who is living her truth one day at a time. I'm interested in religion, its effects on the mind, the occult, and more. Learn more about me on the about page.